My husband had an affair – it was the best thing that ever happened to us
It was an affair to remember.
One wife describes the affair as her husband being “the best thing that ever happened” in her marriage and now seeks to help others.
Charity and Matt Craig met as teenagers at a church camp and then married in 2004 at the ages of 21 and 25, SWNS reports.
Before finding out what was going on behind her back, Craig described their relationship as “happily married and a good friend.”
In 2012, Charity discovered her husband, who was a music pastor, was having an affair and confronted him about it.
According to Charity, she found text messages between her husband and another woman and described the whole experience as “devastating.”
He died, decided to stay with his family, quit his job and changed his number.
“I was working more than 60 hours a week in a very stressful situation,” said Matt. “I spent more time working than I did with my family. I was struggling between my family and my dreams of pursuing a music career.”
“I didn’t want to lose my family and I didn’t want to hurt the other woman,” Matt continued.
Matt and Charity had lived separately for a year and were planning to divorce, but the couple felt drawn to each other.
During their separation, Charity went to therapy and realized that she was simultaneously battling co-dependency and insecurities.
“I didn’t know how sad I was going into therapy,” Charity revealed. “Although it didn’t seem like I had anger issues, I used the silent treatment as a form of control and manipulation.”
“I’m going to explode and get angry,” Charity continued. “I have spent countless hours becoming a better version of myself.”
According to Charity, her husband also spent time working on himself.
“It’s not as cut and dry as it sounds—we had to get the mess out of the way. He really did the work when he wanted to,” said the mother-of-four. “We moved on together. Everyone has to do what is right for them.”
A year later, husband and wife reunite.
“We had a year of recovery before we felt like things could go back to normal. I went to therapy and read self-help books. I did everything I could to get her confidence back. Matt said.
“It was amazing. It helped our family. I have a complete understanding of her feelings and I can be open with her,” Matt continued. “You have to be patient and you can’t get angry or impatient when you want to talk about it again or break down emotionally. I asked her to get back with me on Valentine’s Day in 2013.”
Charity now works as a coach helping other couples overcome infidelity and infidelity.
“We were two empty ships trying to suck the life out of each other,” said Charity. “Each of us is responsible for his own happiness.”
Despite the heartache, Charity says this relationship made their marriage even stronger.
“This relationship turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to our marriage,” Charity said. “It broke everything but we were in a toxic and unhealthy place.”
